Long-Distance Trust Quiz: Does Distance Breed Anxiety or Strengthen Bond?
They haven’t updated Instagram Stories for 3 days. You:
Refresh their profile: "Are they hiding something?" DM: "What did you do today?" (frequent probing)
Text: "You seem busy—share what’s up when you have time!" (gentle invitation)
Ask a mutual friend: "Has s/he been hanging out with someone?" (social validation)
Assume "no big deal": "Probably busy with finals—they’ll mention it when ready." (self-trust)
Noticing they’re wearing the same hoodie as a opposite sex friend during your Zoom date, you:
Blurt out: "Are you matching with them? Why buy the same hoodie?" (direct accusation)
Joke: "Cute hoodie—send me the link! They have good taste." (playful probing)
Send to group chat: "Look at their hoodie—something’s going on?" (group consultation)
Brush it off: "Matching hoodies happen—they’re here with me now." (focus shift)
They go MIA for 6 hours after saying "going to a bar with friends," you:
Spam FaceTime calls: "Why aren’t you answering? Who are you with?!" (anxiety bombing)
Send one text: "Have fun! Let me know when you’re home so I can sleep." (trust space)
Check Snapchat Map: "Location at downtown bar—who else is there?" (tech surveillance)
Rationalize: "Noisy bar—out of contact normal. They’ll explain tomorrow AM." (rational attribution)
They cancel your planned Netflix Party twice for "last-minute plans," you:
Accuse: "You don’t care about our plans—what’s the point of LDR?" (emotional outburst)
Propose new times: "What day works for you this week? I’ll adjust." (flexible adaptation)
Ask their roommate: "Was it really because of homework?" (third-party verification)
Analyze frequency: "20% cancellation rate in 3 months—acceptable. Confirm 24h ahead next time." (data evaluation)
When they say, "My ex messaged me today," your first reaction:
Demand to see messages: "Show me the chat—no secrets!" (control surge)
Ask: "How did it feel talking to them? Want me to listen?" (empathetic support)
Stalk ex’s Facebook: "What’s their recent activity? Are they trying to get back?" (info-gathering anxiety)
Reply: "If you need boundaries, let’s define them together." (collaborative boundary-setting)
You send a 520-word New Year’s essay, but they reply "Thanks baby, love you." You:
Confront: "Is this all? I spent 2 hours writing!" (emotional neglect anxiety)
"I know you’re busy tonight—let’s voice chat details later?" (delayed gratification)
Check their Twitter: "Did they leave longer comments on others’ posts?" (social comparison)
Accept the difference: "They’re not into long texts—their actions show care." (cognitive reframing)
Finding ex photos in their phone album, you:
Demand deletion: "Keeping these to get back together? Delete now!" (command control)
Ask: "What do these photos mean to you? Can you share?" (open dialogue)
Screenshot to mutual friends: "They still have ex photos—what should I do?" (external help-seeking)
Believe "memories aren’t threats": "Everyone has a past—what matters is our present commitment." (security confidence)
When a pandemic outbreak hits their city, you:
Ask for health updates hourly: "What’s your temp? Wearing N95? Get a test now!" (excessive worry)
Send supplies: "Sent a pulse oximeter and Lianhua Qingwen. Stay safe—just a daily ’I’m okay’ is enough." (action support)
Join their local pandemic group: "I’ll track community cases—notify me immediately." (over-involvement)
Trust their judgment: "You know how to stay safe—I’m here when you need me." (autonomous support)
They miss "good morning" for a week due to time zones, you:
Text at 5 AM: "Ignoring good mornings on purpose? Are we even on the same page?" (time zone anxiety)
Adjust: "Since mornings are hard, let’s do ’good night’ instead." (flexible adaptation)
Check their TikTok history: "Browsing at 2 AM—real reason is time difference?" (deception doubt)
Rationalize: "Greetings are just formality—30 mins of quality chat daily matters more." (de-symbolization)
Describe your LDR trust style with a Western TV/movie trope:
Love & Other Drugs "Daily video patrol" (anxious attachment)
Going the Distance "Scheduled communication spreadsheet" (secure attachment)
The Social Network "Hiring PI for location tracking" (over-monitoring)
Before Sunrise "Trust as a gift of freedom" (mature independence)
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